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Relationships...what are they for?

I met with an old friend not long ago... and that's how the conversation went.

The main complains (from my friend)
- Boyfriend disrespects her in front of his mother (yell at her) because his mother. His mother thinks she's leading the relationship more than her son, yet the mother is dominating the son all the way.
- He talks rudely at time.
- He takes her for granted (all the nice acts from before are gone).
- He threats to break up when they fight and 'won't' make up.

She says she loves him, she doesn't want to give up on the relationship like this. As being a straight-forward person, I told her....what I've been repeating over and over again to others.

"You still hope for him to change but deep down you know perfectly that he's not going to change. People don't change (they evolve) and promises are worth nothing (really meant to be broken). You don't promise stuff like, "I'm not going to be late, never again." From the moment you start telling yourself that you need to give a 'last' chance, that you don't want to give up everything you've built, your feet are stepping on the path that leads to break-up." It'll most certainly.

"Yes, I know at the very beginning, when they want you, they'd do anything to please you."

" Bah...it's great when they can do that on their own, if we have to ask for it, it's worth nothing much."

"Hey...I know this guy, when his ex-girlfriends would get a little stressed out, he would come to her school with food and flower to calm her down and leave later for work. How about I..."

"uh-huh...(that kind of 'thing' exist? I wouldn't be on earth)."

I knew it was going to happen. Don't take me wrong, I did not wish for them to fall apart. In front of my very eyes, I witnessed both of them getting together, sharing laughter, tears, and hope. Nevertheless, as young as they used to be, they promised each other eternity. I'd apologize to readers who believe in this, because I don't, once again, believe in this promise (not when it's made within 1st year of the relationship). Maybe you'd perceived me as an pessimist person while reading this. However, I can assure you that I trust marriages...a lot.

Some of you may not think that's it possible to have a friendship-based between a male and female, but yeah...I have that and it's been wonderful. You can talk about intimate issues with the opposite sex and be very comfortable with it. Once guys become your real friend, they can be great friends who give precious opinions. They help out and genuinely care about you. They won't cheat on you. They would make sure you're safe and sound. It seems like some men tend to under-treat/care their girlfriend compared to their friends...just something I noticed (and so did my friend).

Hence, she had thrown fights when she got jealous because her boyfriend was spending regular time with a girl she doesn't like. He seems to be appreciating the girl more than just on a friendship-based.

But...even if the whole world doesn't trust your guy, he's after all your boyfriend... the person you has responsibility towards. The person who shares your life. Seriously, why doubts rise when you love someone? When you have enough self-esteem in yourself?

After all, girls and boys meet with new opposite sex people even when they're in a relationship. There would be someone, out there at a time, that would want to snatch you from your current relationship. But after all, you're still bound and that's enough for me to trust. No...actually, saying I love you, is enough to build and strengthen trust.

Relationships need to breath too...being always together, not giving each other space, having your own friends...all of that are benefits. (My friend also complained that she doesn't want the mother to ground her down.)

In the end, if you cared enough, you'd want the other person to be happy.

All right, so am I a pessimist person or a plain innocent one? Even if I don't want to, I would still believe the other person based on simple respect towards each other, instinct and...

Because, two days ago, a friend said to another one, " She (me) is over the edge and she's still smiling." Apparently, when I'm having whatever emotion, all I know to do is keep on smiling. Weird huh?

I did an open book nursing exam and forgot the existence of the last most important question because I decided to start from the beginning and that very question is worth 25%.

I have a biochem exam on monday, yet I'm working this weekend... Go home and study.

And you know what? I'm trying to hold back even if I can't...no more.